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30 DAYS/30 STORIES® 2021


September 12th


Phoebe’s Story

If Phoebe’s cancer has taught us anything as a family, it’s to do all the things you want to do when you want to do them. To not wait for a better day. To expect the worst and mentally prepare for it at all times (yes,

this is a side effect for cancer parents). And to live life to the fullest because you just don’t know what tomorrow will bring.

We never saw it coming. Phoebe's cancer was like a freight train, hitting our family head on, when we didn't even know we were on the tracks. For a few weeks in August 2015, she had complained of pain in her left leg. We thought maybe she pulled something and was just favoring it. She was an active five-year old, so it was totally possible. She was also bruising here and there with little fingerprint-type bruises on her arms, legs, knees. Again, she was active, so this seemed "normal".

Until the night she stumbled a little and screamed like she had a compound fracture in her leg. The sobbing and crying and screaming in pain... I thought a bone would be poking out of her leg, but how could it be? She only stumbled a bit.

That was the last time she would walk on her own for almost 4 months. That night, we heard her scream for us as she tried to walk on her own to the potty; she swung her legs to the side of the bed and could do nothing more from the pain. She really could not walk; this was not a dramatic 5-year old putting on a show because there was no one to see it. Little did we know, her bone marrow was 90% full of leukemia.

The next morning, I took her to the emergency room and requested x-rays... and labs run on her blood. In my gut, I knew something was off. In my gut, I felt bad news was coming. A friend of mine had gone through childhood cancer with her little girl, and I knew the signs before they even said the horrible words.


You can anticipate and worry and fret as much as you want, but NOTHING prepares you for the diagnosis of cancer for your child. It's devastating. It will stun you, then stab you in the heart with a harpoon the size of your car. In less than a second, it will bring you to your knees as it slices its way through memories of your child's past, thoughts of her present, and dreams of her future, and you will feel defeated. Because

cancer can mean death for your child, and you know this... everyone knows this.

It's the worst feeling, the worst words to hear, and your mind will explode with gut-wrenching sorrow and deep pain and guilt-filled whys and horrible what-ifs. You will cry uncontrollably, and you will sob more than

you ever thought possible. I remember literally falling to my knees in the hospital waiting room when they confirmed her diagnosis and they ushered me to a private room. Nothing prepares you for it. Nothing.

But you will hold it together when your little one looks at you and asks,

"Mommy, am I going to be ok?"


Six years ago, Phoebe was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia (or ALL as they say in the real world). The following months after diagnosis were hard, so hard: emotionally, physically, mentally... everything changed and our "normal" life before diagnosis never returned. She was sick, couldn’t walk, lost her hair, went through an anguish that would buckle the strongest adult. She experienced things we never thought we’d have to watch our child go through. We learned medical terms we never wanted to know. We became experts at whatever routine Phoebe had to deal with: shots, needles, spinal taps, blood draws, infusions, chemo, hair loss, nausea, fevers...

But as these medical routines became our new normal,

our crying slowed down...

our backs straightened...

our worries turned into determination…

our daughter became a warrior…

and our hearts were strengthened so that we could face every obstacle with her and we did it together, forming the tightest bond you can ever imagine with our little girl.

After two and a half years, Phoebe completed her cancer treatments and is still so proud of her journey. She will tell you how strong she is now because of it and how amazing she did throughout her sickness. Leukemia brought some really amazing strengths of hers to the forefront. One of those traits was finding the positives from negatives and she excelled at that throughout her cancer journey. She doesn’t talk about the pain she endured, the fact that she couldn’t walk for 4 months, the physical therapy she had to overcome, the 20+ spinal taps she had to have, the blood transfusions she had to sit through, the (what seemed like) hundreds of times her port was accessed, or the many times she had to have clots cleaned out from it. She talks about the beautiful people she met along the way, her “Friends of Phoebe” page and all the supporters she still has, the fun activities she was able to do because of cancer, the trips she took during her treatments, the parties she attended in her honor, the money she raised for other kids who are going through cancer. That is what she focuses on and remembers most about her cancer days. We can all learn

a lot from this little girl.

Phoebe now only visits clinic every few months to have her blood checked. We hold our breath and cross our fingers every single time, hoping and willing the leukemia cells to stay away forever. If she gets a small

bruise on her body, we internally panic and wish for a blood test that day. That fear will never go away. We never want her to have to go through that again. But there are no guarantees, and we know this.

Today, she is the epitome of strength, adventure, positivity, and HOPE. She is living her best life, trying everything she can. She is an insanely great chef for being only 11 years old and has parasailed, rock climbed, danced, mountain biked, explored, and recently started horseback riding lessons. She is our adventurer and free spirit. Her incredible story should give hope to those facing the same heartache either now or in the future.

Please follow Phoebe's journey through leukemia and beyond. We started her page on day three of her diagnosis back in 2015 and kept a journal of her entire cancer journey during and thereafter for the last 6 years. Yes, she is a childhood cancer girl, but she's also inspiring, creative, and eye-opening for those who know her. Her Facebook page is "Friends of Phoebe". From the beginning, we have hoped to bring awareness for what these children go through... and she has done just that and so much more.

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Please also consider helping local kids with cancer by donating blood at Miller-Keystone Blood Center:

If you would like to donate in Phoebe’s honor

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